Why Your Girlfriends Are All Around Your Height

The likely reason: a biological courtship called isopraxism, which means “same behavior,” says David Givens, Ph.D., author of Love Signals.

The “like attracts like” principle is based on an innate feeling that “same is safe,” he says. So any differences in appearance—say, like a mate that is much taller or shorter—may signal danger, since it strays away from the norm you’re used to.

This doesn’t mean you’re attracted to mates that are your exact height, however. Guys generally wind up with women around the same height or a couple inches shorter than them. Ladies go for dudes who stand at their height or a couple inches taller, says Gordon Gallup, Ph.D., an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Albany.   

This trend could serve a bigger purpose, which is to stabilize the distribution of height in the population, he says. 

If men and women both preferred only taller or only shorter mates, the height distribution would shift—creating a semi-taller or semi-shorter society.

And that matters, because there are important health costs associated with being very tall or very short, Gallup says. 

Related: Who’s Healthier: Tall or Short Men?

Extra inches, for example, have been linked to an increased risk of cancers and a shorter life expectancy. Short folks, on the other hand, may have an increased risk of heart problems.

As any scientist will tell you, there are no absolutes. There are always outliers. After all, former NFL player Eric Johnson is 6’3”, seems ridiculously happy with his 5-foot-3 wife, singer Jessica Simpson.

So go ahead and flirt with the beautiful 6-foot-tall brunette and the gorgeous 5-foot-tall redhead at the bar. From pheromones to age to even the depth of her voice, there are thousands of other factors at play when it comes to attraction. Either one could be your next potential date. 

via Men’s Health

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